Is telling a story about someone else that they told you gossip?
I can’t ever decide. It’s not like a secret story that I was told not to tell or a negative story where I’m talking trash on them….but rather just a story about someone else’s life.
You know, when I type it out like that, it feels like gossip.
I’m trying to be very aware of what I talk about and to whom. Recently I was the victim of some gossip and I just wanted to scream at the top of my lungs “KEEP MY NAME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH!” So I guess, I should be keeping everyone’s name out of my mouth, but then there is this question of when talking about someone because gossip or when it’s just a story that connects to the conversation.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this….because I am very interested in what the term gossip really means. When I goggle it, it says: idle talk or rumor about the personal or private affairs of others.
With this definition almost everything out of everyone’s mouth is gossip…WHERE IS THE LINE?!
I started thinking about this a few months ago and now that I am aware of it, I feel like all anyone ever does is gossip about what’s going on in other people’s lives. There has to be a higher form of communication than gossiping or taking about our past, right? I mean, what if we all really answered with a real answer when someone asks “How is your day?” Wouldn’t that get us started down the path of a real conversation. Instead we do this…
“How was your day?” “Good. Did you hear about…..” I’m going to stop doing that. I’m going to start telling people the real answer. “I feel great, I got spit up on 3 times this morning before I left the house, but it’s okay, my Starbucks has kicked in and I’m ready to make today my bitch…”
I know this is kind of week topic here, but when you really start to analyze who is gossiping in your life, it becomes very clear that they need to be carved out of your world. When you start to enforce these carvings, and you keep yourself surrounded by the people that only have positive things to add to your life, your world starts to look a lot happier.
It’s a goal of mine for 2012, so if you happen to hear me slip, please let me know that you aren’t interested in hearing about what I’m talking about and that you’d like to step up the positivity in our conversation…. That would be very helpful to me.