At 28 years old I have finally come to terms with the fact that it’s okay to fire friends.
Just the same as if you aren’t getting along with a client or customer, you can stop doing business with them, I realized that if friendships no longer make sense for both parties, it’s okay to let that friendship fall by the wayside. It’s not coming from a mean place, it’s coming from a place of honesty. It’s alright that I don’t stay relevant in someone’s life if we aren’t on the same path. So why force it, or feel bad?
I’m not going to lie, quite a bit of my friends have lost importance in my life since my kids came into the picture. Suddenly the bar stops and the late nights don’t sound as appealing as they may have when I had less responsibility and fewer hearts to love.
Now, when I think about what a perfect friend would be like, it’s really someone a lot like me, someone doing the same thing I am that see’s that kids trump everything else and if one gets sick, our plans are going to be canceled. It’s someone that thinks that a trip to Target without the kids is a vacation and someone that thinks squeezing in a Starbucks run with all the kids playing around us sounds like heaven. Now, let me be the first to say that if someone would have said this to me 5 years ago, I would have thought ‘there’s no way we can be friends!’ So I fully understand the people that are reading this and think I sound like the most boring person alive….but I also know there will be many that read this that know exactly where I’m coming from.
All of the above is why my sister and I have gotten so close over the last few years. Sometimes you just need someone that just wants to be there with you while the chaos of kids runs circles around the room. It’s less about an event that we are getting together for and more about just getting together to be together.
All friendships have a reason, a season or a lifetime and I’m perfectly okay with watching my friends from the reason and season categories be on their way. I would prefer to just hang with my lifetime peeps…and you all know who you are.